So, what are the rules when it comes to grief?
You might say there are none but guess again; according to some self-righteous people there are.
There are some people who feel it’s their obligation to write letters via Facebook or on paper to the grieving on how selfish they’re being. There are some who feel it’s their right to discuss, bitch and gossip about how the grieving are being dishonorable to the deceased because their actions of grief don’t measure up to the expert’s standard.
How long should a person grieve for? Perhaps a lifetime?
It comes in waves, over time. sometimes there’s anger or just deep sadness. sometimes there’s feeling of rejection. I’m not in the loop anymore; but was I ever? Sometimes it hits you unexpectedly and then sometimes you see it coming.
It’s a new way of living. It’s brings hidden inner strength. It brings an eventual breakdown. It brings a new way to do life. More is lost when the person dies. Is it innocence? You gain a broken spirit.
You think you are healed then someone else dies or you notice something on Facebook that makes you aware of the distance grief has caused.
Grief’s a Bitch