My Retreat!

For the third year running I was able to go on my getaway. You can read about my previous experiences here and here. I went to the same place and it was still lovely and as usual very renewing to my soul. This time I did a lot more walking and was able to explore the familiar. I did wonder after the third year would it still be as special and I’m please to say that not only was it special but I think it was the best one so far.

When I arrived in Kiama I was a bit early so I went and ordered breakfast and then after that I went an sat on Black Beach (where, here comes the dumb alert: I suddenly realised why Black beach was called so. And with that I got a revelation but that’s another post). I sat for hours and played with the pebbles on the beach and was lost in time.

And I collected treasures

The next day I walked and walked and found the Spring Creek Wetlands which has a bird-hide

Lovely views all around

After that lovely walk I had a rest and lunch in town, basked in the sun at the house then ventured of to another walk I that didn’t know existed in Kiama, The Bonaira Native Garden. Who knew there was a rainforest in Kiama!!!!!

The getaway for me this time made me explore the familiar, it made me slow down and it has helped to recharge and face life again with all of its challenges. May I never ever forget to this special thing as I can’t tell you how important it has become in my survival and my general happiness.

Where have I Been???

It feels like I haven’t written a post for ages and it’s true, I haven’t!!

So where am I and what’s been going on???? To be honest nothing too exciting except for my two-day getaway where I chose to revisit the same destination as last year.

It was so lovely when I arrived at the cottage to be greeted with this lovely note

There is no better feeling then being welcomed and walking in the place felt like I’d entered a big hug!!

This is the view from the cottage

It has this lovely garden in the back yard

To me I find this place inspiring and very helpful towards my good mental health. It’s been a stressful couple of years full of grief and loss and gaining solitude in a small cottage by the sea is so restorative. I visited cafes. I went for long walks. I took many photo’s on my iphone. I was just responsible for myself. I am grateful.

One thing that I have noticed since I have come home is how inspired I feel. Inspired again to write, inspired to draw and inspired to paint. I’m sure this is what it is meant when people say Be kind to your self!!!


I found these pumpkins basking in the sun at the cottage I was staying at. They looked so homely sitting there assembled and waiting to be used at a later date. So I got out my trusty iphone and captured the moment.

My trip to Berry!!

On the second day of my getaway I took the train down the Berry. Normally I love going there to look in all the great shops and dine in one of the many great cafe’s. Yet when I got there all I wanted to do was take photo’s of all the pretty trees and to collect some leaves.

After debating with myself over whether I should go or linger I decided that I should go. I was not in the mood to look at shops. I was in an arty mood and that taking photo’s of the pretty trees was the better option of the day.

I’m glad I made that choice!!!

Amaki Cottage Cafe

While I was on My getaway I visited the Amaki Cottage cafe twice. The first day was a freezing, cold, rainy and windy day and I made it to Amaki Cottage and ordered a very yummy meat pie. It had real meat chunks with a red wine flavor and was the best thing to eat on a day such that I was experiencing.

The next visit was on my last day and I ordered the eggs benedict for breakfast. It was so delicious and I couldn’t resist taking a photo of the food. When your ever in Kiama call into the Amaki Cottage, it would be totally worth it.

A tourist in my own home town

When I was planning my getaway destination all I could think of was Kiama my home town where I was born and bred. Well technically I was bred in Kiama Downs but we wont let details get in the way. I believe that it was the best choice as I was relaxed and enjoyed every moment of my getaway. I booked a lovely cottage for two nights that was walking distance to everything.

My first day was rather windy, rainy and freezing but It didn’t stop the joy of being on my getaway for two days and two nights. When I first got to the cottage I made a cup of tea and looked out at the wonderful view and I could feel all this tension leave my body. I sat and had a chat to God and I asked for forgiveness and I too began to forgive the things and situations that had caused my tension for the past six years.

I then decided that It was time to brave the weather and go and have some lunch. When I stepped out of the door I found myself singing out loud. Yes, in the crappy weather and in public I was singing out loud!!! I was so happy and so I should have been, that’s the point of a getaway to enjoy yourself and make it a special time.

It was indeed a special time and a gift that I appreciate with gladness. I feel refreshed and inspired with readiness to keep on going with the normality of life. Sometimes we really do need to treat ourselves with a getaway.

My Getaway!!

The thought of a getaway with just myself had never occurred to me before. I feel like I’m a happy and calm person in spite of the drama’s that rage about me like a frenzied storm. Recently My Husband and I were challenged to seek out time alone as life with a child who has a disability can be very stressful.

My Husband jumped at the chance and his time away really did have a calming effect on him. His first night away he rang us crying as he missed us but the next night he was fine. (I’ve probably just embarrassed him AGAIN!!)

Even though it wasn’t my turn yet I felt calmer as well. It was really quite easy to deal with my Son and it felt like there was less stress in the house. When Jason came home it was great and you could see how the time apart had greatly benefited everyone in the family.

So now it will be my turn next week and I am so excited about it. I’ve booked a cottage and I have no great plans except to just enjoy the time. I’m looking forward to uninterrupted sleep and the thought that I wont need to get anyone ready for bed and school and all those mummy things one has to do.

I feel a surge of excitement that I never expected to feel. I didn’t think that I needed it, truly I am a coper and I forget that really I must take that time out and recharge.

I reflect on the past six years of our lives and they are full of drama’s that we did not ask for. There has been job loss, bankruptcy, repossession of one car and accident with the other, our child needing surgery, our child being diagnosed with VCFS, my mum getting sick and needing oxygen twenty-four seven and then eventually she passed away.

Through all of these things I have kept my Faith in God and that’s probably why I haven’t had a full breakdown but don’t get me wrong I have had meltdowns and bawled my eyes out here and there.

I really think that this getaway is a gift that I must take, enjoy and come back refreshed and ready to go. I also see it as a vital part of our self-nurturing plan, in order to maintain the longevity required for being a carer of a child who has a disability.