Good Grief, Bad Grief

So, what are the rules when it comes to grief?

You might say there are none but guess again; according to some self-righteous people there are.

There are some people who feel it’s their obligation to write letters via Facebook or on paper to the grieving on how selfish they’re being. There are some who feel it’s their right to discuss, bitch and gossip about how the grieving are being dishonorable to the deceased because their actions of grief don’t measure up to the expert’s standard.

How long should a person grieve for? Perhaps a lifetime?

It comes in waves, over time. sometimes there’s anger or just deep sadness. sometimes there’s feeling of rejection. I’m not in the loop anymore; but was I ever? Sometimes it hits you unexpectedly and then sometimes you see it coming.

It’s a new way of living. It’s brings hidden inner strength. It brings an eventual breakdown. It brings a new way to do life. More is lost when the person dies. Is it innocence? You gain a broken spirit.

You think you are healed then someone else dies or you notice something on Facebook that makes you aware of the distance grief has caused.

Grief’s a Bitch

 

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4 responses to “Good Grief, Bad Grief

    • Unfortunately it was via Facebook that My brother and I received a nasty letter after our mum passed away….for me I was in utter shock and stopped eating for about two weeks. I had to see a Doctor about it.
      Really, the medium is irrelevant. It just so happens that Facebook is a part of my life. It’s the pain that was inflicted that counts. When a person writes an intentionally nasty letter to a grieving person then it’s personal. Just because it was sent via Facebook doesn’t make it any less personal at all.

  1. I think grieving is a natural process. It is why cultures allow a mourning period. For me, sometimes trials in life make us decide on relationships. Whether they are worth more time, less time and no time. I think nastiness even if it was during a non grieving period should have no space in your life.

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